I read a great quote the other day. It has kind of bookmarked my mind over the last few days.
Things turn out the best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out. – John Wooden
Life happens. Things don’t always go our way. Sometimes, things go the exact opposite of the way we want them to. Nothing in life is fair. People will hurt you. You will hurt yourself. We will make mistakes and have to pay the consequences for them.
This paragraph sounds like I’m a pessimist. But, actually, the opposite is true. That’s where this quote comes in. Things in our life are going to go wrong because that is life. What we do with the hand we are dealt is what matters.
So, what do we do when things go wrong? Obviously, the individual steps you will have to take in each situation are going to depend on the situation you are facing. But, the attitude you keep throughout them all will most likely determine the direction you go.
Don’t let fear cripple you. The idea of moving from a place of comfort to the unknown is often overwhelming, especially if you are a person who doesn’t like change. But, if we guide our thoughts to a better perspective, we will find the strength to take the first step.
A new perspective might be to allow yourself to look forward to a new adventure or opportunity in life. Holding on to the past will often just bring you pain and keep you bound in fear. The idea is that we keep moving. We don’t stop and pitch a tent in the land of misery. The first step is always the hardest. What is the worst that could happen? What is the best that could happen?
If your life has turned out different than what you planned, maybe it is time to regroup. Where do you go from here? What are your strengths? What are your passions? What areas could you add value in? Invest yourself in the areas of life that matter most to you. This will give you a passion and joy for your new life.
Find a new hobby. If you are having trouble moving beyond whatever has you stuck, it is time to refocus your mind. To do this, you need to refocus your time. What have you always wanted to do? Turn off the television, get off of the computer, and do it.
Make friends with change. This won’t be the last time you have to associate with it. You will find more peace and joy in life if you allow yourself to be flexible. Think of the trees that sway with the wind verses the ones that are too strong to bend. In hurricane force winds, they either bend or break. Be flexible in life. You will be much happier.
When all else fails, just dance! Put on some good music and let yourself enjoy the moment. Even if you can’t control the circumstances around you, you can control the next three minutes. Choose to enjoy them.