Who Am I?

Who am I?

What is my purpose in life?

What should I do with my life?

What is the meaning of life?

I did a little research and found that the phrase “who am I” has been googled (is that a word?) more than 100 million times in the last month; 20 million of those were in the United States.  To give you a point of reference, there are a little more than 300 million people living in the United States.

This information has made me horribly sad.  First, it perplexes me that there is so much confusion regarding this question.  Second, it is sad to me that people are asking the internet for such important information.  The internet!!  Think about it.  Have we really become so unattached to each other that we have to use a computer to find out who we are?  Have we isolated ourselves to the point that we don’t reach out to each other when we are confused about our very identity?

I’ve spent some time thinking about this subject.  And, I’ve come to some conclusions about it.  While it is certainly sad that people reach out to the internet instead of their friends/mentors to answer this, I believe the fact that they do this goes a long way to answer their original question.  Let me explain.

Knowing who we are as individuals is important.  But, I don’t believe the question can be answered in the vacuum that it seems to be asked in.  While we are certainly all individuals, we aren’t designed to live that way.  We are designed to live our lives in communities with other people.  That is where we will find fulfillment in ourselves.  That fulfillment will ultimately answer the question, “Who am I?”  We find the answer to that question in how we live and interact with other people.

Think about the self-serving people you know.  Are they fulfilled?  Are they happy?  Absolutely not.  Think about the times when you went out of your way to help someone.  What did that do inside you?  You felt good about yourself.  Right?  In that moment, you weren’t wondering what your purpose was.  You fulfilled your purpose, thus eliminating the question from your mind.

The fact that we are asking a computer these types of questions only illuminates the fact that the question remains unanswered.  And THAT is sad to me.  People living without real relationships with other people makes my heart hurt.

I understand why people do this.  They have obviously been hurt by other people.  We all hurt each other at different times in life.  Does that make us all bad?  No.  It makes us all imperfect.  But, building walls only isolates us from having the real relationships that we need to feel fulfilled.

We all have different personalities, character traits, strengths, skill sets and life experiences.  When we use these things to help those who are around us, we find our purpose.  When we hoard all of those things and only use them for ourselves, we rob others of the benefits and cheat ourselves too.  By offering ourselves to others, we will find that they return the favor.  And, if we all lived our lives this way, there wouldn’t be over 100 million people asking a search engine who they are.  The question just wouldn’t exist.

This Post Has 8 Comments

  1. Jayne Kopp

    Hi Kim, yes it is sad isn’t it? Excellent post by the way.

    I receive literally dozens and dozens of searches that result in people landing on my blog where the reader is looking for information pertaining to personal forgiveness or how to apologize.

    I agree with you that they shouldn’t be asking a computer… instead they should be connecting to humans.

    In any event, it just goes to show you how things have changed and how everyone is running around like farts in wind tunnels and not taking the time to focus on what counts.

    Wonderful post!


    1. Kim

      “Farts in wind tunnels.” Just wait until my husband hears this one!! Thanks for the comment Jayne!

  2. Christina

    I’m glad I can bounce that question off of you. 🙂

    1. Kim

      You make me smile, my friend!

  3. Great post and point Kim. “This is sad that people are trying to find out who they are by using Google. I do believe that the internet has opened up peoples eyes a little to do some investigating themselves. It is becoming the day of information. However a little conversation with friend and community can help in many ways.

    I do worry about the younger generation when it come to communicating with humans. Are they really going to know who?

    Thank you again for the great post and keep it up.

    1. Kim

      Good point! It is our responsibility to teach them. If we don’t, who will? Thanks for the comment, Debbie!

  4. Jimmy

    Hi Kim,

    I am new to your site and hope my first comment won’t put you off.

    Although I agree with you and all those who had commented so far about to be human in our relationships in personal things like finding our identity, I think there is nothing wrong with people using technology to search for the answers they are seeking for.

    The questions on identity and purpose in life are not easy matters to comprehend and break through. We would need all the perspectives and information we can to help us in this quest. The online community is a great place to search for answers or even begin this journey. Not everything put out there is full of crab or spam. There are really good and helpful people around as well. We need only discern a bit and we will know if we can trust what we are reading online.

    For example, I recently share six methods that I have tried using to find my purpose in life. All of these methods gave me great insights. As I was reading many blogs about this, I realize that many bloggers only share one or two methods which are their personal favourites. I thought why not give everyone other methods as well. These might help people gain clarity.

    At the end of the day, we take this information, speak to our friends and family, and start the journey to discover ourselves. Whether we take the materials from personal sources or online does not really matter as long as we are discerning.


    1. Kim

      Hello Jimmy! Welcome to my blog. Your comments are just fine. Frankly, our opinions probably aren’t that far away from each others. I search the internet for lots of topics on a daily basis. We all do. And, while I don’t think there is anything wrong with people searching for answers, I find it sad that the question even exists.

      I’ll have to check out your 6 methods soon. Thanks for the interaction!!

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