I like evaluating things to find a better, more efficient way of doing things. It is a very natural way for my brain to think. I find myself doing this often. As a matter of fact, I have to make a choice not to do this if I’m in a situation where I just need to be content with whatever my surroundings are. For instance, the first season my daughter played softball, I was learning the dynamics of how the ball park operated. First of all, the park is run by volunteers. So, their time and resources are limited. So, for me to get frustrated every time something didn’t go right or information wasn’t given to me in a timely manner would be pointless. I have to believe that they are doing the best with the resources they have. So, I don’t sit around judging everything that goes wrong. But, honestly, that takes conscious effort on my part (and sometimes a gentle reminder from the hubby). 🙂
I believe we are all designed with a purpose. I believe our responsibilities change with the various seasons of life. But, for the most part, we have gifts and talents woven into our personality and character that make us unique. Then, along come our family members. They too have unique gifts and talents. Since I don’t believe it was an accident that we all are placed in the same family, there must be a reason, a responsibility, a purpose we all share. So, how do we find out what this is?
My husband and I decided to explore this one day. We sat the kids down at the table and gave everyone a pad of sticky notes. The instruction? Write down everything you can think of that describes our family or a particular member of our family; one thing on each little square. And be kind! The kids loved it. We wrote our likes and dislikes, our hobbies, our talents, strengths and weaknesses. Who are we? That was the question. We had to go get more sticky notes.
We then put them all on the wall (Dean and the kids put them on each other) and looked for common categories. We started grouping them. Again, the kids thought it was fun. We talked with them about responsibility that day. We wanted to make sure they realized their responsibility in life, in their community, and in their schools. We discussed being a team and what that meant. We discussed helping each other with our weaknesses, forgiving often, and treating each other with love and respect. At some point, the family activity was over and we all learned a lot about who we all were.
When the kids left, I wrote all of it down. I didn’t want to forget anything about this day. I knew this was only the beginning. I’ll blog more about what we did with all of this newfound knowledge sometime in the future. In the meantime, what kind of family bonding do you find to be helpful?